Even a lot of actually married folks need to learn something from this article about what’s right when bringing children into the world.  

It’s not about the “right” of a man or a woman to “have a child” if that’s the fashion accessory of the moment, or the satisfaction of some sentimental wish.  Rather, every child just by existing has an insuperable claim on some man and some woman–on those who participate in the fundamental procreative act.  Turning that act into commerce, turning “having a baby” into the province of prosthetics and services bought and sold, whether surrogacy or IVF or contraception or abortion, abrogates or attenuates that claim:  it makes the adjudication of percentages of responsibility distributed over many people, and adjudication of some mysterious quantum of “consent” and some other mysterious quantum of “welfare of the child,” seem as necessary as it necessarily must be impossible.  It denies children their rights, and deludes all of us concerning the nature of our rights and obligations.

Those who reflect well on the realities of marriage tend to come to the same conclusion as reliably as every civilization that outlived its self-destructive fads has done:

I have always wanted to be a father. I would give just about anything for the chance to have kids. But the first rule of fatherhood is that a good dad will put the needs of his children before his own—and every child needs a mom and a dad. Period. I could never forgive myself for ripping a child away from his mother so I could selfishly live out my dreams.

Same-sex relationships, by design, require children to be removed from one or more of their biological parents and raised absent a father or mother. This hardly seems fair. So much of what we do as a society prioritizes the needs of adults over the needs of children. Social Security and Medicare rob the young to pay the old. The Affordable Care Act requires young and healthy people to buy insurance to subsidize the cost for the old and sick. Our schools seem more concerned with keeping the teachers unions happy than they are educating our children. Haven’t children suffered enough to make adults’ lives more convenient? For once, it would be nice to see our society put the needs of children first. Let’s raise them in homes where they can enjoy having both a mom and a dad. We owe them that.

(source: I’m Gay, And I Oppose Same-Sex Marriage)